Sex for the first time
SEX FOR THE FIRST TIME
It seems like everyone is talking about sex, your friends, the television, magazines, and movies. It's normal to be excited and anxious about becoming sexually active. There is no right or wrong time to become sexually active, it is different for everyone. It comes down to when it is right for you.
SO SHOULD YOU OR SHOULDN’T YOU?
Only you can answer that question, it is not something someone else can decide for you, but below are some things you might want to think about before making that decision.
- Is this something I want to do for myself, or am I being pressured by someone?
- Am I more anxious than excited? ( if so you might want to wait a little bit longer or gain some more information)
- How much do I know about having safe sex and why it is important?
- If I do it will I feel guilty or bad about myself?
- Do you trust the person you are with to respect you if you say no?
SOME FAQ'S ABOUT FIRST TIME SEX
Can I get pregnant the first time I have sex?
Yes you can, when thinking about becoming sexually active you need to consider what form of contraception you will use to protect yourself against pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections. The best protection for both is to use a condom. If you want you can make an appointment with our Health Educator to talk about the best types of protection and how to use them.
Will first time sex hurt?
For some people, first time sex can be pleasurable, comfortable and fun. For some people, first time sex does feel uncomfortable - it could even hurt. Pain during sex could mean you don't have enough lubrication or need to try a different position. It could also mean your partner is going too fast or using too much pressure or that you are nervous. It could be a combination of all of these. If it is hurting, stop and talk to your partner. Try some more lubrication or a different position or ask your partner to go slower. If it is hurting too much, then stop because it shouldn't be too painful. It's important to talk to your partner about these issues and work out ways to make sex more comfortable.
Sometimes for first time sex, for girls, there might be some bleeding, this should not last long. If pain or bleeding continues, it's important to talk to a health professional. It can be a good idea to talk to someone about your feelings about sex. Contact FPA Health line 1300 65 88 86, your GP or your nearest sexual health clinic, or come and chat to our Health Educator here at YHES House.
Will the first time be perfect?
TV and movies often glamorise the first time, which may give unrealistic expectations about what it's really like. It's OK if the first time is not perfect. It's not uncommon to feel awkward or self-conscious about your body or sex. And sometimes unexpected things happen when having first time sex, so it's good to feel comfortable enough to talk about it.
What happens after first time sex?
After you have sex, especially if it's your first time, you might experience a whole lot of emotional stuff - some good emotions, some confusing. For example, some people might feel worried or guilty, or sex might enhance your feelings of affection for the other person. If you are having trouble dealing with these issues yourself, you may want to talk with your partner, or with other people you can trust, such as friends, family members or a counsellor.
For more information follow these links:
Qld Govt. - Sexual Health
Family Planning - Qld
Aids, Hepatitis & Sexual Health Infomation
Shine S.A. - Sexual Health
Reachout.com.au
The Better Health Channel