School and Beyond
Schoolies is a great time to kick back and celebrate the end of 12 hard years of work. A time to catch up with friends before you go different directions. To make sure you have the best time you can have you also need to look after yourself and your friends. Partying safely doesn’t mean not having fun. Partying safety makes sure you can party longer and remember the good times you are having.
Feeling pressure to drink or take drugs?
When friends or the group you are with are drinking or taking drugs you might feel pressured to drink more than you feel comfortable with or take the same drug as them. You are the only one who knows your limits
Some ideas to help you stop drinking or taking drugs discreetly include:
- Avoid drinking in rounds.
- Order water at the same time.
- Drink mixers rather than spirits straight.
- Spend time dancing or playing pool.
- Remember the world won’t stop if you decide not to drink.
- Its okay to say no to drugs, move away and find people who are party safely too. You have your reasons for not taking drugs, stick to them.
- Know the liquor laws in the state where you’re holidaying.
- Organise a drivers license, passport or proof of age card Make sure you eat before and while you drink.
- Stay with people you know and trust.
- Don’t drink and go swimming.
- Think about how you might feel in the morning.
Other Things To Think About To Stay Safe:
- Stay in groups when out and about.
- Know where the time out tents and areas are they are a safe place to go if you have had too much to drink or need help.
- Know where you are staying and the local taxi phone number. Always keep enough money to get back to your accommodation.
- Make sure you lock your room and don’t ask strangers or people you have just met back to your accommodation.
- Don’t go swimming at night even if it is well lit. Its dangerous and police will remove you.
- Look after your friends and get them to watch out for you too.
Tips for booking accommodation for Schoolies:
- Shop around and compare prices of different accommodation providers and check to see if a bond is required, as not every provider charges it.
- Usually people renting holiday apartments for short periods are riot asked to pay a security bond and an agent or property owner can only ask for a bond if every other prospective tenant is also asked for one not just you.
- Do the sums on accommodation advertised at a per person rate instead of a per room rate as a better price may be available in similar style accommodation at a per room rate (but don’t plan to over-fill the room).
- Do not be misled into thinking there is only one way you can book or one booking agency – you can contact travel agents and accommodation providers directly to identify other options.
- Ensure the accommodation ‘house rules’ suit you as many buildings require specific rules to be obeyed and many surprise Schoolies.
- If you do have to pay a bond, make sure you get a receipt and an indication from the owner about when it will be returned to you and how any disputes will be resolved.
- Ask yourself whether extras included in an accommodation package offer are worth the total room price (which can be up to $1000 a week).
- Ask for a copy of the accommodation contract from the accommodation provider (riot just the booking agency) and check that terms and conditions are acceptable – before arriving at Schoolies.
- Make sure it is clear what the total price of the room is, as you don’t want to arrive at the hotel to find there is more to pay.
- Make sure you understand the costs and consequences if you change or cancel your booking.
Bullying is very common it isn’t limited to age, sex, culture, or religious background. Bullying is a lot more common than a lot of people think and can happen at school, work, home or on the sporting field. It can be done verbally, by writing, texting or on line by email or chat room.
Bullying usually starts because of some perceived difference.
The difference can be related to culture, sex, sexuality, physical or mental ability or disability, religion, body size and physical appearance, age, cultural or economic background or being new to a school, work place, to a country, to a social group, or being new to a sports team.
Who Are Bullies?
A bully can be someone on their own or a group of people. It can be someone who doesn’t know you very well or can be your girl friend, boyfriend, sister, brother, member of your family, a teacher, your boss or someone in authority.
Why They Bully?
Bullies are often trying to make themselves feel more powerful, since they have often been bullied themselves, or have experienced violence or some situation that makes there feel venerable. They often have low self esteem and are trying to make themselves feel better by making others feel bad. Bullies often are motivated by jealousy, misunderstanding or lack of knowledge.
Different Types Of Bullying
There are a number of ways a person can be bullied:
- Verbally: Teasing, name calling or put downs, threats, sexual harassment, or even innuendo, hinting that something might happen.
- Written form: This may be by letter, sms, email.
- Physical: Being tripped, kicked, punched or having your things stolen or damaged. It might also include sexual abuse.
- Social: Being left out, ignored or having rumors spread about you.
- Psychological: Giving dirty looks, talking about you to others, being stalked or making you feel intimidated or manipulated.
Being Bullied Is Not Your Fault
Being bullied is not acceptable and it is not your fault. Don’t be afraid to let someone know that you are being bullied as they may be able to help you. In the workplace or if it continues it is also illegal. Most schools look at bullying as very serious and if teachers know about it will do something about it straight away.
How Bulling Might Make You Feel
Being bullied can make you feel lots of different emotions including:
- If its been happening for a while, you may think you are to blame, feel guilty for wanting the bullying to stop and feel like you deserve to be bullied.
- Feeling like you are stuck or that the situation is hopeless.
- Because bullying can be part of the culture or everyday way of doing things in some places such as school, work, social groups, sporting groups etc. It can sometimes feel like “the world” is against you. It can feel like there is no particular person or group that you can target to try to resolve the issues and stop the bullying.
- You feel like you aren’t accepted by the “cool” people or don’t fit in.
- You may feel like changing the way you look or hurting yourself – some people become anorexic or bulimic because it’s the only way they feel they can cope with the bad feelings that come from being bullied.
- If you are bullied for being good at something- school work, sport, music, art, work, or in your hobbies – you may feel like giving up, hiding your talents because you want to stop others being jealous or hostile (some call it the “tall poppy syndrome”).
- You may feel rejected or depressed.
- You may feel like you have to put yourself down in front of others to get accepted.
- You may feel like you have to become the “class clown” so that people laugh at you rather than hate you.
- Alienated at school – no one to turn to as sometimes even teachers don’t understand. Sometimes teachers bully too. Sometimes teachers feel threatened by students who question and challenge decisions, who think differently or who know more than they do.
- You may feel like the names people call you are true and start to believe you are worthy of being put-down.
- You may feel that people look at you on the surface and don’t see the real you- for example, if you are in a wheel-chair they may only see the fact that you don’t walk, and riot that you have a good sense of humor or have strong interests in sport.
- You may feel unsafe or afraid.
- You may feel confused and stressed.
- You may feel ashamed of yourself, family, gender, race or culture, or economic position.
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